Christian and “Family Friendly”

Somewhere along the way, American Christianity became affected of the idea of family friendliness. Perhaps the rise of the Family Research Council in the 1980s and James Dobson’s Focus on the Family radio programs were influential in this regard; perhaps they were merely symptomatic. Perhaps Christians were en masse enchanted by the idea; perhaps there was a flood of people brought up in or converted under these pretenses. Either way, as far as consumer culture goes, “Christian” is now a practical synonym for “family friendly”.
But this does not necessarily follow. In fact, it makes almost no sense at all. The Bible, for example, does not at all conform to Christian standards of “family friendly”. Judges is awfully gory. Psalms is full of laments about people who don’t get what’s coming to them in life. Genesis has more than a few accounts of incest, even after Adam & Eve’s kids. A conception of Christianity molded into a family friendly model leaves the individual unprepared not only to deal with the realities of God as revealed in the scriptures, but unprepared to deal with life in general as an ambassador of Christ.
Family Friendly Culture
The ideas represented by Dr. Dobson and his organization represent an astoundingly faithless view of Christianity. Rather than being taught of bad influences, how to deal with them, and why they are bad, children are sheltered from all possible exposure these influences. This sort of attitude presents a dilemma to parents. One the one hand, kids will be kids, and the parent either does not want to or is not able to totally shelter the child. On the other hand, they don’t believe kids can handle the ideas out there. Rock music isn’t itself objectionable; it’s just the lyrics and themes. Reading is good; the kid just doesn’t need to be exposed to opposing worldviews.
And so a market niche is created to solve this problem: duplicate and sanitize. The people who fill this demand in any medium don’t need much wiggle room: the product needs to seem similar enough to mainstream fads to be cool – just with a “positive message”.
Incidentally, this is one of the reasons why The Passion of the Christ was so controversial in Christian circles: it shined a violent and bloody yet sadly brief spotlight on the fact that Christianity is not necessarily synonymous with family friendly.
It’s easy to see then how the Dobson mentality has stilted Christian creativity. This is why we have Christian pop and rock which most often comes off as mediocre clones of mainstream bands. This is why Christian fiction never breaks out of its niche market. This is why Christian film is seen from the outside as laughable. This is why Christian fashion (especially t-shirts) is more often than not painfully kitschy. Mainstream “family friendly” Christian culture offers nothing new, because its niche is “sanitize”, not “innovate”. The former imperative has totally superseded the latter.
Family Friendly Politics
The rise of the Christian Right as a political force can also be directly attributed to this mindset. In fact, this is more likely the direct result of the Dobson mentality and the culture the byproduct, for the Family Research Council is first and foremost a lobbying organization.
When pressed, almost anyone who advocates the Christianization of American culture (read: family friendlization) will eventually appeal to a form of the “think of the children” argument. It is the same sort of faithless idea of parenting applied to the government: if kids are screwed up more or less automatically by exposure to bad influences, why leave those decisions in the hands of the parent? Let the state prohibit gay marriage, lest the culture come to accept that lifestyle as normal and a child not know any better. Let the state regulate the sale and advertisement of alcohol and cigarettes lest a child become spoiled by the desire to indulge.
Obviously these fears are nonsensical to any Christian with a semblance of an understanding of the doctrine of election. But as this mindset prevails, Christianity becomes less about any particular doctrine than the sort of lifestyle one lives. Even as it becomes more blatantly counterproductive to the gospel, it also suppresses the ideas by which people from the inside can see that fact.
This idea of a family friendly faith has turned American Christianity into a lifestyle without religion; action without belief; and like the Pharisees, an external semblance without internal reality. Dobson-style sheltering from bad influences is both wasteful of strength, spiritually counterproductive, and empirically idiotic if the goal of parenting is to keep the child in the faith. Christianity is a doctrine: it is not a culture, as if there were one canon expression of faith. It is not a lifestyle except as far as one’s life is lived by this doctrine. Let God be again glorified in creativity and innovation, and in the faith that his sovereign grace is strong enough to shine over even the worst of influences.
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